Partying With The Rapists This New Year ?

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*PSE - Personal Security Education

December - January: Favorite Time For Sexual Abusers !

Is this the truth ? Or is it just that the media chooses cases that happen during these months to give them new year TRP's ? I'd say both have some reasonable validity. While Jyoti Singh (aka Nirbhaya) happened during 2012 December and also the Bangalore Molestation Case that happened on the 31st of December 2016, were not even the tip of the iceberg. While 2012 saw a total of over 22,000 rapes and 2015 a whooping 34,000, plus more than half a million of other forms and degrees of abuse in the last few years, suggests that there is selective reporting. 

However, there are other reasons why this is a good time for abusers. One of the main reason which most don't know and those who know are in complete denial is that - More than 63% of sexual abusers and rapists are from the close circle of the victim. That is - Family, Relatives, Friends, Acquaintance and Colleagues. And it is a fact that most of us volunteer to go out with such elements completely unaware of malicious intent.   

So the question is - Must You Be Blamed For Being Abused ? 

There are 2 words that were probably not very well defined to us in school. Even though we used them very extensively through out our academic life. BLAME & taking RESPONSIBILITY. While I can blame the question paper for having shot me with questions I was not prepared to answer, it is my responsibility to have studied and be more prepared for the questions.

Similarly, we can blame the friend, family, acquaintance, colleague to have breached our trust and abused us sexually, however we must take the responsibility to have learnt the subject of personal security. Only blaming the question paper and living a life in that blame will for sure tag us as a victim with a lack of logical reasoning. I'm sure many philosophic friends have told us 'Life is a Game' and we did agree with them. So have we learnt how to deal with opponents who are there to hurt you to win ?

Authors interview in Kidskintha ....read here

Know Your Enemy - Know Yourself. And In A 100 Outings, You'll Never Be Sexually Abused.

It is that time of the year when you are busy planning your parties. And it is the same time of the year when some malicious intended guys are planning on how to rope you in for their 'Indecent Act'. So here are some basic 'Rules of Personal Security' you could abide by to increase your chances of safety. 

1. Alcohol is NOT a fun Accelerator or Amplifier. It makes you less aware of the fun that is actually taking place around you.  
2. Do not go out parting with a group that has a majority of people you don't know well enough (well enough can be defined through *PSE). 
3. Make a group of close trusted friends on whatsapp. Keep sharing your locations on that group so each of you can track the other in case of any emergency. In fact I suggest 'Live Tracking' as the option is now available in Whatsapp. Privacy can go fly a kite for a night.
4. If you consume alcohol, do so only to half of your sane capacity. 
5. Never finish an unattended drink. This could be your last mistake. 
6. Plan your washroom trips. Between 2 drinks is the best. However, never hurry into a drink just because you wanna visit the washroom. A bottoms-up at the wrong time can send you spinning.
7. If you are in a private party (not a public place) you should not be the last to leave. Rather we suggest you leave with the second lot. They don't miss much ! 
8. It's winter and its gonna be cold. You don't want to wear clothes that expose you to possible injury to skin. I give this advice specifically to those who are not trained in Unarmed Combat or Personal Security. Dress plays a very vital role in how you can secure yourself during an escape. This also includes footwear that handicap your speed.  
9. Avoid public transport between 21:00 and 07:00 hours. 
10. Watch your '6' (your back). Identify and remember faces that look suspicious. Most times the bad guys follow their victim within a party premises and while party hopping. 
11. Carry small compact bags for easy mobility. Never leave them unattended. 
12. Carry a fully charged power bank that is compact. Never let your battery go below 50%. 
13. Avoid sharing your party plans on Social Media. You don't wanna tell the bad guys where you can be found at what time. 

If you ever feel abnormally drowsy from your drink, rush to the bar tender or the pub manager or the bouncers around and ask them to call police. Confining in a friend would not be a wise idea as it could be one of them. Try to stay awake by shouting and pumping an imaginary stress ball in your palm (both hands). 

These are some of the basic pointers that came to my mind that I could share. Will update the points as and when I can recollect more. Once you have studied Personal Security, the above points become a part of your consciousness and you don't have to really remember them. 

Time To Crime

This is another very important element you must understand. There are different forms of abuse a woman can go through during party times. Right from a verbal abuse to inappropriate touch to molestation to rape. What you must know is that, the adversary (the bad guy) needs different amount of time for these abuse. A verbal abuse could happen in 5 seconds. Inappropriate touch again in a few seconds. Molestation could probably happen between 30 seconds to a few minutes. A rape takes longer than 15 mins. 

In most cases during parties, the adversaries start with verbal provocation as a form of litmus test. If you are intoxicated enough to not realize this form of abuse they take it to the next level and so on. Hence my suggestion to keep spirit levels to less than half of your sane capacity.

If you lose control of your mind, your body is up for attack. 

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Remember

Your personal security, is your personal responsibility. You cannot hold police or the law responsible for partying with malicious people and then becoming their victim. Police can most probably save you from unknown danger. Its you who choose to ignore signals from know dangers and stay in denial. 

If you wish a crash course for yourself and your friends in Personal Security, feel free to reach us at +91 8050041238. 

#NoMoreVictims2018

This is our mission for 2018. And we can't do this all by ourselves. We need major support from all your women to make you more stronger as we don't believe that you need protection. Our belief in your capability to defend yourself is what drives us in our mission. Help us to educate more on Personal Security. 

If you have any queries about Personal Security, please do ask your questions on our FB page and we will be happy to answer.

Stay Safe,

Chakradhari Rowe

Armored Spirit LLP 

cd@armoredspirit.com 

Read This If You Used #Metoo

Disclaimer - I write this piece with a lot of empathy for what you have been through. But my objective in writing this piece is not to make you feel good by sympathetic words but to do so with knowledge that will power you with confidence of not becoming a victim again. Not just that but also give you this confidence so you can share it with others and prevent them from becoming first time victims. To be able to receive this knowledge, you'll have to park your emotions aside while you read this. Emotions tend to block our mind from being able to perceive new perspectives.

The Crime

Sexual abuse is not a new crime. Its been there for centuries. Earlier probably in a much brutal form as the society was not as matured and empowered to raise their voice against it. During the times of the rulers, rape was common. Back then I don't think any evil man had to just satisfy himself with a few nasty comments. He had the dominance over the masses to do what he wished. Its important for us to study the past as the mind that commits such crime today is similar. This mind still believes that the society or the Victim will keep shut in fear and will allow dominance.

DOMINANCE - A Classic Pre - Crime Indicator.

The form of dominance that we speak here is not the kinds that we experience at school/college. At the education institutions, the intensity of dominance is high from day one if you have a strict faculty. But the dominance that sexual abuse offenders seek, is built into your relationship over time (in 98% cases where the offender is a friend, colleague, neighbor or worst, from your family). This dominance starts by merely disrespecting your 'NO'. This could be as small as - NO not burger lets eat a pizza... to a NO, that would actually lead to perfect conditions for the abuse ( No to Your Time, Your Place, Your Activity and Yes to their Modus Operandi).

Watch OUT !

You need to watch out for relationships that do not respect your choices. Once in a way giving in to others choice is OK. But when this becomes a routine is when you must WAKEUP.  And consider it your good fortune if the opponent lets you go quite easily. In some cases the abuse gets advanced when the opponent realises he could lose you.

Modus Operandi - The Personal Security Perspective.

The best difference between Self Defense and Personal Security Education is the difference between a 007 and a Rock movie. Rock on one hand needs to ENGAGE into a physical fight to bring excitement into the movie. While 007 shows up much ahead of his villain and prescribes him a metal pill. Personal Security Education is all about beating your opponent by predicting his Modus Operandi and before it  could be executed. All crime whether sexual abuse, robbery or terrorism starts with an INTENT and then manifests into a mode of operation. The mode of operation of a sexual abuse offender is much predictable if you can think like one.

When I visit a client installation, I first think like the bad guy and look for ways how I could steal/sabotage. Once I know how I could steal, I know what to fix. So the first task for you now is plan your sexual abuse. This is not going to be easy as most of us will indulge heavily into denial and try to reason with oneself. But as I said, you'd rather be 007 than rock. Once you know how you can be sexually abused you'll  know your vulnerabilities. And once you know them you can fix them. If you need help in doing this, contact a security consultant and they could help you (you can reach me as well).

Pre - Crime Indicators (PCI)

This one makes all the difference and forms an integral part of Personal Security Education. To understand this better you will have to understand what personal security really is. And the various ways it can be breached. For one to identify the PCI's, they have to be really good at situational and security awareness. This is not rocket science but it is a science that can be understood and learnt as an art. This doesn't just make you a Hard Target against all crime but also helps you in your day to day social and professional interactions.

In a nutshell - PCI's are indicators just like those that come before an earthquake, cyclone or a tsunami. Knowing how to read and interpret them accurately will help save lives.

I'd like to end with an attempt to making you believe that - 

Sexual Abuse is a very simple crime and simpler to irradicate if we take the right approach, the right perspective, use the right tools take the right action at the right time. After having studied terrorism and its complexities, this is a no brainier. 

All we need to know is that it will take ACTION to kill this crime. Action by women alone. Not the media, not the police, not the law not by anyone else. ACTION BY WOMEN ALONE

The above 3 points, Dominance, Modus Operandi and PCI are enough to get you started to think on the Personal Security Education lines. 

For more info on the subject or personal consultation, feel free to write in.

Stay Secured and Safe.

Chakradhari Rowe
Director
Training & Ops

cd@armoredspirit.com
+91 805 004 1238

Child Sexual Abuse - Understanding The Cure

For the knowledge of all #Parents, #Women, #Schools, #Teachers, #Journalists  and others dealing with kids and issues like such, it is important that you understand this for your own benefit.

There is a HUGE difference between #SAFETY and #SECURITY. I can bet most law enforcement personnel donot know this difference either. Without knowing this elementary difference, you can write about or have panel discussions for days and months and you will still not reach any conclusion. Please read through this and share with those you care, to educate.

SAFETY

When you think of the word SAFE, what usually comes to mind is the metal box with a door fitted with a sophisticated lock. That which is used to secure what is kept within. But however strong this box maybe, we have known cases where it has been broken into, compromising the SAFETY of its content.

SECURITY

When you think of SECURITY, what usually comes to mind (in the west) is a well built personnel wearing black tactical jacket, probably a bullet proof, with visible weapons around his hip and/or chest, tactical pants and combat boots. In India, we would think of a 'Milkman turned Security guard'  wearing a plain uniform, chappal in most cases and a stick just enough to scare dogs entering his perimeter.

Taking the western image of SECURITY into consideration, you know for a fact that breaching this personnel will be much much more difficult and will involve some collateral damage at the end of the attacker. Which means - It is the ability to FIGHT BACK and DEFEND itself, that differentiates between SAFETY AND SECURITY.

THAT WHICH MUST BE SAFE, MUST FIRST BE SECURED.

Now talking about our 'Milkman turned Security'. The fact that you allow your security agencies to supply you such DISGUSTING QUALITY of men sends a signal to me (thinking like a criminal) that you are not serious about your security and safety. Nor are you serious about your kids. And as sir #PraveenSood said, a police verification cannot accurately tell you their character. But tools used by Security Professionals CAN !

By visible security deterrents ANY crime can be STOPPED. And we must understand one thing, Educational Institutions are not CLASSIFIED criminal playgrounds. But are classified SOFT TARGETS. So our focus must be to install visible security deterrence and make them Hard Targets for all criminal action and intent.

Molestation and rapes in education institutions can be STOPPED with few tactical measures. It is not a big deal. The Big Question is - Are you willing to hire Security Professionals to secure your loved ones. Or would you like to continue with the Ex-MILKMEN ?

Personal Security is a PERSONAL Responsibility !

Stay safe,

Chakradhari Rowe

VIP Security  |   Counter Terrorism   |   Installation Security   |   Personal Protection

cd@armoredspirit.com
805 004 1238, 895 104 1238.

Are Women Responsible For Their Safety ?

A Question I was Asked on Quora....

Some questions must not be answered directly. They very easily get tagged as opinion. So I will define a few points here and turn the question back to you.

Your Question - ‘Are women responsible’ - ‘For their OWN’ - ‘SAFETY’ ?

SAFETY - Imagine a metal box with an opening on one side. Most of you will imagine a SAFE. A box where you store valuables. You call it safe because you believe that no one can gain access into that box without the key/password that can otherwise open it. But yet we know of many cases where this safe has turned out to be unsafe. And it has happened so because those who broke the safe did so where the SAFE was unguarded by a security personnel. Which implies that - That which is required to be SAFE must also be SECURED.

FOR THEIR OWN - In India, corruption has got into every nook and corner of the system. And it has made things worse by corrupting the security structure. We could not stop an attack on one of our most secured structure ‘Parliament’ that happens to be the epitome of our democracy. We could not stop a 26/11. And in recent times, a few Pakistanis were found living illegally in bangalore with valid aadhar cards.

But for a minute, let's assume each and every law enforcement officers is as honest as Harishchandra. They will still fail to provide security to our nation. Because they are 0.1 % of our entire population. There is only 1 cop for every 840 citizens. And according to some criminal stats I read long back - 10% of any population consists of criminal minds. So that makes it 1 cop vs 84 criminals. And the cops are definitely human beings. Which means they cannot be omnipresent for a billion people.

ARE WOMEN RESPONSIBLE - Are men completely safe from being victims of crime ? I definitely don't believe so. So the question should be - Are WE responsible for OUR OWN SECURITY?

Looking at what I've shared above, I believe you know what the answer is. What I've stated are facts. So I'd like YOU, the intelligent reader of this piece, to answer this intelligent question all by yourself for yourself.

Stay Safe !

How Safe Are Women In India ?

Introduction - I've been asked to answer this question on #Quora many times. Hence thought of putting this up on my blog. Understanding my perspective requires you to park your emotions for a while. As I believe one needs to be emotionally neutral to be able to understand the challenge accurately & arrive at a foolproof solution. I sincerely hope this small piece will put the most widely discussed issue in the right perspective. So please read on & share this if you agree or your views if you don't.

If you have to withdraw 100,000 cash from the bank, you'd take precautions that even cops might not take with VIPs. That's because you ACCEPT that this is your hard earned money and whether or not the police is there or not, if you lose this money - it will be your loss and your responsibility.

You also know that it is your fundamental right to safety and freedom to walk around with valuables. However you'd be a fool to try and exercise your rights, being completely aware of the criminals and their intentions. And not to forget the fact that we are a billion + population and the police cannot be omnipresent for all.

Now women, replace this 100,000 with your life. What precaution do you take everyday to keep yourself secured. Or are you screaming about your fundamental rights to walk worry free at night and expect those with malicious intent to educate themselves on the fundamental rights ? Or are you stuck in a vicious circle of the media blame game between cops, court and the government?

UNDERSTAND THIS - ANY place on this planet is safe for you, if you take responsibility to train yourself against the prevalent malicious people. And No Place is safe if you choose to blame everyone else for what happens to you.

We have a law and order problem and a massive corruption problem. Your fundamental rights are as good as nonexistent unless these issues are addressed first. So till such time that we can educate our population, destroy corrupt practices and strengthen our law and order mechanism,

STOP BLAMING and take your Personal Security - Personally and Seriously. You are the CAPTAIN of your Life and MASTER of your Fate.

Stay SAFE !

Chakradhari Rowe
Consultant and Instructor
www.armoredspirit.com

Simple Choice of Life - Engage or Run Like An Ass !

For months, an army man trains. With weapons and backpacks. Without them. In deserts and in mountains. In rain, sun and snow. They do so, to be able to defeat their enemy when they are attacked and live to tell the tale of bravery, It is not by mere training that they defeat their enemy, they do so by a choice they make when they are attacked. And what they tell themselves constantly while they train.

They have a choice to Engage or Run. When they run, most of the time they are shot at and they become victims (though this is not an eventuality as Indian Army is not trained to retreat) but when they choose to Engage, they increase their chances of living. 

This is the very choice we civilians face when we encounter malicious intent/action in daily life. We can either choose to run or to engage. Most of the times we run or find ways to run. And hence most of the times you become victims. So now, I can confidently say - You Choose To Be A Victim.

We face these malicious intent/actions on a daily basis. Just different degree. While getting onto a bus, you are pushed aside by one who is attacking your place on that ride. Now you might be saying its not that aggressive after all. Its just a place on the bus. Yeh Sure ! Its RED for the traffic and you begin to cross the road as its your GREEN but a cab guy wants to break that signal and almost drives onto your foot. You let him go with a few words of wisdom. Or you are at a review at your workplace and your colleague answers a critical question with an answer that you shared with him over a coffee just last eve. This could cost you your promotion.

Now out of the 3 situations - Bus, Cab & Colleague - the malicious intent of your colleague has hit you most. While it is not life threatening, it still is. You got hit by a soft toy (office politics) coz you refused to learn from the hard toys (bus/cab).

So now lets talk about Engagement with the enemy. Your enemy is everywhere. Only the degree of the enmity differs. Women have an enemy in every man. As they have not learnt the art of identifying their attacker before they become a victim.

And if you are living your life thinking you will not get effected by the constant war around you, you are in a state of hallucination. You NEED tactical life skills to get ahead in your life. A decade back there used to be 300 applicants for a single job. Today its over 3000. So if you think your employer can't find someone better than you - Hallucination.

So, cutting the long story short, YOU need Tactical Life Skills. Your Work Force needs Tactical Life Skills. Give this to yourself and your workforce and sit back to watch the magic unfold for you and your yearly targets.

A mind that is in denial, will never yield results for itself and for those who hire it.

Take Care Take Charge


For Tactical Life Skills Instruction, contact:

(+91) 805 004 1238
cd@armoredspirit.com 

War has Been Declared. You Have Less or No Time To Prepare !

If you judge this article by its title, you will for sure lose a chance to gain some critical info that can......

War has been declared. You have less or no time to prepare. You can choose to be a civil casualty or a fierce commando who will destroy his enemies and secure his people. This write up is for those who wish to become commando's.

The War

War has been declared. Not today, not yesterday but the day you graduated and an outdated empty gun (degree) was put in your hands to go fight the world outside and earn your daily bread. This gun was neither outdated nor empty when it was commissioned a century back. Back then very few had it. And the mere sight of it commanded respect from fellows. Some used to frame this gun onto their walls as a trophy of pride. But over the years, these trophies have vanished from the walls. Not because they are not trophies any more but because 10 out of 9 of your neighbors have it. Its no more a priced possession.  

The worst, these guns today come empty. And I say this as 90% MBA's and >60% graduates are not fit for a job (war). They have learnt NOTHING that can help any company fight their competition. These soldies are as useless as the outdated guns.

More You Sweat In Practice - Less You Bleed In War

Practice - makes a man/woman perfect. This is the biggest BULLSHIT you've been taught. Specially if your practice is not even 10% as hard as real war, you bloody playing a shooting game to prepare for real war. And guess what happens ? ?  You become INVALID. 

Look at this pic below very carefully. Notice every single weapon this commando is carrying on him and (without cheating and looking at the answer) guess the most deadliest weapon out of them all ! 

Not the night vision, not the automatic, not the flash bang or the fragment, not the secondary weapon. Nothing made of steel but yet made as strong as steel. It can bend to any degree without breaking. It can take any amount of pressure. It is mankind's greatest weapon that was gifted to him by the creator. 

The Mind

It doesn't matter how many enemies you shot down in a video game. The first time you fire in real life, your shoulder will hurt. There is a mini blast 6 inches from your face and you cannot close your eyes coz you will lose sight of the next opportunity. You will not know where it runs to hide. A commando is made of his mind. Not his weapons. The same way a successful man/woman is made of his/her mind and not their degrees. 

But your training happens in an AC classroom playing video games (theory exams). And when you get out of the paradise you see the real war and real casualties (depression, suicides). And this scares you. Or worse, make you immune and ignore. 

It is beyond a doubt that the education system is outdated. And so are the guns. It will take many more years for the high command to realize this and take some serious action. Or maybe they do realize this and don't want to take action. Sometimes, the command is scared to build an army of commandos as they could turn against the command when the command is corrupt. But this is just a speculation.

Building The Mind - Tactical Life Skills (TLS)

The mind is purely built and enforced by pressure. And this pressure is created by circumstances and people around us. Using controlled pressure, the mind and body can be built to work in synergy and deliver optimum performance. This explains why most Israeli youth are so strong mentally and physically. But they are so due to their choice of growing through the army after they get out of high school. An option that will be a dream in India. 

This controlled pressure is created when you train in Tactical Life Skills. While many not so worthy trainers claim to teach life skills, the use of their vocabulary exposes their mastery in the subject. They call it Life Skills 'Training' and they do it in a class room. 

I call it Tactical as your ability to think rational when you are under pressure is what will build your mind into a dependable force. Tactical also refers to the ability of the mind to create solutions on the go to challenges that are critical and/or life threatening. For eg. You are attacked by a criminal while on your way home. Or your cab driver reveals his malicious intent or your colleague you've trusted all this while has cornered you into a no retreat situation (happens in most rape cases). 

Tactical Life Skills also build you to take on work pressure. Meeting targets, fierce competition both in the company and against another. It is a skill set that is guaranteed to change the playing field for those who recognize the value and role of it. Such skills are built into the curriculum of the Armed Forces and hence they find it moronic to hear their civilian friends talk about work pressure sitting on a comfortable ergonomic chair in an AC cabin and beverage vending machines around. 

Imagine if you can train your mind to be as hard as theirs. You will experience a mental condition that most people believe is a myth. 

A Fearless Mind

I can understand how difficult it is for you to believe that it is possible for a civilian to achieve this state of mind without going through military grade training. You don't believe because you have not experienced it YET. But when you have, such a feeling is as addictive as cocaine. Being in a state of NO FEAR is an intoxication in itself. Something I experienced during my Counter Terrorism Training in Israel. I realized it was a tough job to die. I did things I believed that would get me killed and I live to tell the tale. Tactical Life Skills are for those who are frustrated living a feared life. Fear of physical, mental, emotional and financial insecurities. TLS is for those who don't want to be civilian casualties in this war of being the best they can be. 

In fact, the real war is much better because you know your company will bring you back wounded. In the corporate - You Are FIRED ! 

I Dare You 

I dare you to a session of tactical life skills. Don't ask for a DEMO. This is not a video game. You'll need some courage to blindly enroll into this program and trust your instincts. 

There is nothing you can lose. And when you have nothing to lose, you have nothing to fear !

Mail us - How desperate you are to break your stereotype fearful life and we'll send you what to do next !

Most of you won't bother to mail us. Some of you will. And this explains why a small percentage of people don't let their ego and inhibitions stop them from becoming massively successful.

The War Has Been Declared. You Have Less or NO Time To Prepare ! 

Remember - There can be a Terrorist attack any moment around you. And if you expecting the terrorist to be a man carrying a gun or an IED, you are bound to be the victim. A terrorist can also be a 'Situation' you have not predicted and are not prepared for. 

Take Care and Take Charge

Chakradhari Rowe 

Instructor - Tactical Life Skills

Armored Spirit LLP. 

Awareness to #ZTAC (Zero Tolerance Against Crime).

Actions To Show Your Support to #ZTAC

We've heard this from just enough many people and enough many times. But has anyone really told you about 'your role' in making our society a 'Zero Crime Zone' ? I believe not. So here are some TIPS (Tactical Information for Planning Security), Tricks, Suggestions from a subject matter expert. We suggest you take them seriously. I do not need to write for those with deep pockets as they hire security personal. This article is for us. For the citizens who are most affected by such crime. 

1. Understand what personal security is: We've all seen movies that have a rich guy surrounded by a Bodyguard (Salman Khan flick) or Personal Security Detail (13 Hours). Not just that they were made by 2 different woods, there is a big difference between how each functions. 
   
   While the Bodyguard is a single operative in most cases, he is hired based on his gorilla looks (at least in India). While a PSD is hired on his tactical intelligence and knowledge of prediction & deterrence techniques (what we train you on in our Personal Security Training). While the gorilla bodyguard can't see a crime brewing around him or the VIP, a PSD can smell trouble. And this doesn't take super intelligence. 
   
   Security is about being able to predict a crime and thinking of a counter to prevent the criminal plan being implemented. It's all about early prediction and preparation. Its 80% Mind Tactics and 20% Physical tactics.
   
   
2.   Securing Live Assets: Live assets are those which breath. Family & Pets fall under this. The threat to live assets is the most common threat faced by billions around the world. To counter this, those with deep pockets - hire a PSD, some hire Gorilla's other common men and women train themselves in Personal Security Tactics (Personal Security is completely different from self defense). Personal Security as per me, should be a mandatory subject. And I seriously question the intent of our education system for not taking this seriously.
   
   But as parents & individuals, it is our responsibility to acquire such knowledge and pass it on to our generations.
   
   Securing Live Assets, includes keeping them secured from attempts of - Kidnap, Physical & Sexual Abuse, Chain Snatching, Physical/Mental/Emotional attacks/blackmail, stalking etc. The only way to secure live assets from such crime is to build them with counter crime smartness and tactics. There is no other way of securing them if you have shallow pockets.
   
   
3.  Securing Tangible and Non Tangible Assets: Cars, house, money, office equipment, cell phone, tablet, laptop, files (physical and virtual data) etc. These are further divided into 2 sets - Low Threat and High Threat. And this is your choice. Depending on your personal security, the threat level of other assets is determined.
   You could be some one who is earning $500 (INR30,000) a month but you value your life and that of your family's more than the one who is making $10,000 a month. So your personal security is not really about your monetary worth. Its about how much you value your life and that of your family. Or how much you value your other assets. Its usually seen that those who earn less care for their assets more than those who earn more. Those earning less have a better sense of ownership of what they possess. And this bring us to our next point of knowing our adversary. 
4. Our Adversary: He/she is one with avg or below avg education but with good IQ and EQ. The reason probably is obvious that education didn't ruin them. They are usually from troubled backgrounds and have a weak or in some cases no moral compass. However, there are a minute percentage of such criminals who are seasoned - fearless of consequences of being caught, hurt or killed in action. To handle such criminals, one has to go through (to be read Grow Through) intensive Personal Security Training and Unarmed Combat. But lets talk here about the petty ones. The Chain Snatchers, Pocket Pickers, Street Robbers, Molesters and Rapists.
   
   To deal with these kind of criminals, you need mind tactics more than martial arts. You need to learn the rules of street engagement. You need to learn how to identify such criminals and how to most accurately predict their possible moves.
   
   Important Note: It is our responsibility to secure ourselves from such crime. With a 1.2 Billion population, expecting the law-enforcement to be omnipresent is impractical.  
   
   Most of these adversaries watch their pray long enough (depending on the crime) before they attack. One who is a chain snatcher will have less time to choose their victim, plan and execute while a rapist has all the time in the world to possibly befriend the woman he has chosen as his victim. To deter such criminals, if you could learn the perimeters that they look for in their victim, you stand a chance to alter those qualities/aspects in yourself.
   
   
5. Bystanders: As a society we suffer from excessive FEAR. And it is this disease that makes us the #1 choice of being the prey. Our adversaries gain their confidence from our fear. They know that we are not trained in Personal Security Tactics. That we fear. That we will freeze if they show us a knife or a gun that probably has never fired a round or can't fire. The adversaries use this fear to implant more fear. They even sometimes kill a citizen who's already dead by the fear just to remind us that they could kill us too.
   
   During my training at Israel, I did things that I once believe could get me killed. And then I had an UNBELIEVABLE realization. It's definitely NOT EASY to die. One has to be a chicken to let someone kill you. Once I had this realization and I knew that in no way I was a chicken, I became fearless. And it is this realization that we impart in our bootcamp and PST at Armored Spirit.
   
   The thought that I acted like a chicken when there was a crime being committed on someone and I could have saved them.....That though will kill me a zillion times and will need tons of courage to live with, than gathering the courage to go and save the victim. Believe me when I say this - None of you are chicken. You just have been made to believe that you are. In reality you are a force that no adversary would want to mess with.  Come for our PST and we'll prove it to you. 

In my next write, I'll share more in depth about each of the above points. For now, this info is good enough to get to to start thinking ! 

Until next time, Stay Secured !

Take care & take charge 

Chakradhari Rowe 

www.armoredspirit.com 

My Message to Gen Y

To,

A generation that is allergic to bull shit and gyan !

Dear Youth,

First of all, I need to tell you how happy I am to see your generation. A generation that believes in practical and logical being. I try my best every time I interact with you, to learn the good you have. So here is my no BS, no gran message to you all !

Bharat, completes 70 yrs of being a democracy. Most of us are not even half the age of this great nation. Most of us don't even know the price our generations before paid, so we can experience Freedom and Democracy. For 70 yrs those who came to the parliament did, what they were best at. Some rendered priceless service and some scammed and abused this nation for 70 long years. But this is the past.

We are now 63% of the nation's population. That is around 700 Million. Bharat has today more young people than any nation has people. Understand this power. But not forget what uncle Ben said - With great power, comes great responsibility. Here are a few responsibilities I have taken up and would like to share the same with you all.

1- ACCURATE THINKING. 

Let not anyone lure us to buy their ideology, their beliefs or their reasons for us to follow their path. We must develop the capability to gather information analyse it carefully and believe what we hear and see. Believe not the shadows (media) that we see or the echo (rumor) that we hear. The easiest way to enslave this country would be to turn us against our own people or an ideology that is against the spirit of unity in diversity of our nation.

2- VOTE 

The greatest power we have is our right to vote. The reason why we always find a non desired candidate winning, is because those who know his true character, don't vote. This privilege might come just once in 5 yrs,  but know that it has great power to shape our future. So please VOTE. When I find most local candidates unworthy, I broaden my vision and look for the best at the national level/PM candidate. The one I'd like to see represent me at the global  platform.

3- UNITED we STAND. 

Make our generation - our religion, caste and color. Belong to Gen Y. Let not the adversaries divide us into their sects to achieve their vested interests. Stop being used like cattle by those who care not for us but sacrifice us to break this nation further and gain their political motives. Understand what Nationalism really means. Don't buy others definitions of it . Look for logic.

4 - PEACE 

Know that our disappointments must be addressed. But not by destroying public property. The property that some would have earned by their sweat and blood. Property that would be earning someone and their family, their daily bread. Once we get angry, we are prone to being misguided. Anger is good when it is our tool. It destroys us when we become it's tool. SAY NO to blocking roads. SAY NO to violent protests. Use social media to campaign and gain support. And if still nothing happens - a Peaceful Non Co-operation Movement has been proven successful earlier and with social media, it can be much stronger. But make sure our way of demonstration doesn't affect the common man. He is one among us. But always remember UNITY.

5 - DON'T FEAR THE LAW - RESPECT IT.

Wear a helmet, don't jump a signal, don't ride rash and dangerous, don't speak on the phone while riding or driving. Abide by the law. And know why you do so. I have lost a young 22 yr old friend. The truck behind him broke the law and crushed his head. He broke the law because everyone does that. He didn't expect to kill a youth. But he must have seen many break the law. And he escaped the scene because no one stopped him. Law is made to protect us. Next time you pay a bribe for not obeying the law, NOTE that you paid that money as an asshole who don't deserve to hold this system accountable for its corruption and you too are as corrupt as those, who disgust us. When you respect the law, you will notice that you no more FEAR. And that my friends is a great state of mind to be in. NO FEAR !

"The law is not just to protect you from other's un/intentional actions but also protect others from your un/intentional actions". 

6 - CARE, DEPENDABILITY, TRUST, INTEGRITY. 

These 4 traits are the 4 legs, our relationships with our family, friends and society stand on. These are the 4 pillars that unite a nation. Even if one is weak, we lose balance. Learn to care for people around, at home, on the street, in the bus. It takes a character to be dependable. Build that character. No medal is as worthy as someone considering you dependable and trustworthy. And last but not least, have integrity guys. Integrity pays huge dividends. These 4 traits makes a classy individual. Have these traits and flaunt them.

7 - FOCUS (Follow One Course Until Success)

Your complete focus must be on building yourself strong -Mentally, Physically, Emotionally, Financially and Spiritually. Your career is utmost important to you right now. Technology can be your greatest friend or your worst enemy. It can help you build your career or help you waste valuable time. Use the social media, the technology and the connectivity to gather info that can equip you better with skills and knowledge. Don't waste too much time chasing virtual characters around town. I know its fun. But remember you are 700 Million of you. And we don't currently have so many earning opportunities for all. Some of you might have to leave your comfort zones and become entrepreneurs and create jobs for the rest of us. Do that. The rewards are multi-fold. Don't lose your focus onto political issues that are designed to distract you.
Stay FOCUSED !

8 - Security Awareness 

We live in one of the most violent times. Terrorism is becoming a fast spreading virus. It is critical that we prepare ourself to face this virus. Security Awareness (check this link)is as critical for us as is awareness about the subjects we study. Make a group of friends. Discuss terror attacks. Discuss Ideologies. Discuss why they do what they do and how they do what they do. Research. Train yourself on basic counter terrorism preparedness techniques as a group (this is not equal to learning martial arts but you could start with it). Keep your eyes and ears open when in public areas. Watch each others 6 (back). We are a Billion CCTV's (eyes). If we train ourselves, not even a stone can go missing from a street.

"Imagine how scared and terrified a terrorist would feel to enter a public place where everyone is alert, prepared and WATCHING. You could recognize him by his wet pants". 

Remember guys, a strong individual makes a strong family, makes a strong society, make a strong city, make a strong state and make a strong nation. We cannot and must not pay for the mistakes of our older generations. And it will not be productive to indulge into a blame game. 

Let's take ownership of this nation and let's build it strong with our Care, Dependability, Trust and Integrity. Remember - Independence doesn't mean single.
It means In-Dependence. It means TOGETHER. It means depending on each other. I hope I have you guys thinking on some lines. Hopefully the lines that will lead our nation towards global peace and prosperity.

I wish you all a happy World Youth Day! 

Security Analysis - Bangalore Molestation Case

I was waiting for #BangaloreMassMolestation or such an event to happen. I have been studying the PCI's (Pre-Crime Indicators) since a long time now. Its just like how the seismologist waits for his prediction of an earthquake to happen. Not because he wants it to but because he is prepared and he knows it will happen. Because he has data.

Below are results of a 2 question poll I had done a few weeks back. My analysis of the recent molestation events in #Bengaluru are based on these results.

The Analysis

There are 2 types of elements in any crime. Pre Crime Elements and Post Crime Elements. Those who want to play the blame game and keep passing the buck and make TRP's out of it will always focus on #PostCrime elements, such as - Police, Law & Order, Courts, Government etc.Their primary focus is to punish the culprits and diffuse the focus from the actual issue.

Those who wish to seek solutions focus on #PreCrime elements, such as - Themselves & Criminals.

The fact that most people in this poll blamed the Post Crime elements shows very clearly that we are being lead by the media that is focusing more on gaining TRP's by showing you what happened and who is to blame rather than why it happened and how it could have been prevented. Their solutions are also far from practicality and those which cannot give immediate results.

When I saw the CCTV Footage that is doing rounds - I felt sad for that girl. She made mistakes one after the other. She panicked and nearly gave in to the molester and was pushed by him to his choice of direction. I felt she had so much of time and options to deter this crime. There were tools around her that she could have used to alarm people around her. She got out from an Auto, why not take the auto till her gate ? From what looks like from the CCTV footage, the guys had been following her for a while. By just using a little bit of a personal security awareness, she could have deterred this crime so very easily. 

However she could do NOTHING....only because she thought this wont happen to her and she never trained or prepared for such a situation. If women think it is the job of the police to protect them then they will continue to be molested and rapped. And I don't say this coz the Police is incompetent. I say this coz they are outnumbered by population. There are only 119 police for every 1,00,000 citizens. They are doing whatever they can with little or no support from the public. 

No police in the world can be omnipresent where crime takes place. While there could be lapses at times but blaming them completely is just passing the buck.

If i get robbed, its my F6 problem. If i get attacked its my bloody problem. I didn't take precautions and I didn't train myself on basic personal security procedures.

Solution

The ONLY solution lies in the Pre-Crime Elements. One must take their Personal Security....Personally and Seriously. I'm not scared to walk on a dark road or such. Only because I carry with me the most deadly weapons - A Trained Mind and a Trained body. I am trained to incapacitate my attacker and call the cops for Post-Crime job. But in such a crime - The Criminal has become the victim. If I can, any woman or man can.

What women need today is Tactical Education. Not to be treated like sheep and remind them that the men are always there to protect them. The same men who watch when she is being molested or abused. The same men who disrespect her at home. We know not all men are bad but it so happens that such crime always take place when the good men are not around.

There is no point is long debates and watching repeat telecasts of the same crime. Just a big waste of time. Debates never saved a life. Actions did. I hope this event has served as a wake up call for you all. If it hasn't, wait for few more.

Call me if you wish to organize a Personal Security Training for women in your workplace, gym, dance studio, apartment complex or a venue of your choice.

Till then - Take Care & Take Charge !

Chakradhari Rowe 

Personal Security Tips for Women

Recently, a girl in Bangalore foiled a kidnapping attempt. There are some lessons to learn from this event. Here is the video you must first see, so you can understand what we discuss below.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ROuWsifNfMs

While the crime against women is on an all time high, it is now becoming a necessity for all to be physically and mentally strong to foil any attacks. It is time and again proved that those who fear most are picked as targets. Even though we spend millions of rupees on education, you still don't possess the knowledge that will set you free from FEAR. Unfortunate but true. At Armored Spirit,  we've made a decision to train you tactically to get rid of fear. But before we get to that, we'd like you to read some of our suggestions you can implement on a daily basis. Plz share this with your colleagues and friends. It could definitely save someone some day.

So, you watched the above video. As scary as it is, trust us the tips to avoid are just as simple. So here you go -

1 - Never talk on the phone while you are walking on the road. Specially in areas that are quite and with negligible people movement. That could be even in front of your home. Quite areas are as advantageous for your adversary as they can be for you.

For your adversary, you know why its good. NO PEOPLE. For you, it could be an advantage if you have your ears, eyes open to scan your surrounding. If you are on phone, most of your senses are engaged, leaving you more prone to an surprise attack.

2 - Always watch your 6 (your back). Consider yourself a little safe only when you have a wall behind you. The adversary in this video, followed her. He went towards the corner and waited there. Never be so involved in the conversation that you can't notice a man closing in on you. Even if you had to be on a call, keep walking. In the middle of the road (provided its a by-lane and has no traffic). Away from openings that lead into buildings where you can be pulled in easily.

Also, don't walk in a set pattern. Keep changing your direction at random. Turn 360 degrees. This will never allow the adversary to take you by surprise from behind. Simply - DO NOT BE PREDICTABLE.

3 - Always carry a pen in your dominant hand and your cellphone in the other. You are smart to know what you must do with a pen. It can be used to engrave lessons not just on paper.

Most interesting part of this video was the lady who witnessed the abduction. Go back to the video and watch her reaction. Usually, being a witness to a crime and being afraid, we tend to walk faster or run. In this case, her pace of walk remained same. This could mean a few things -

a) She has been a silent witness to such crime before.
b) She has been a silent witness to this particular criminal in action before.

There is no video evidence to she having done anything to stop this crime. Maybe she did raise an alarm and that part of the video is not available. Just MAY BE.

But here is what I have always felt - NO MAN, can harm any woman without a woman directly/indirectly being involved in as a spectator. If women decided in one voice to stand up for another, we could reduce 90% of dowry deaths, as it cannot take place without the active involvement of the mother in law, a woman.

I hope, the above tips are taken seriously. Strictly NO PHONE while walking on the road, specially silent ones.

Take Care & Take Charge,

Chakradhari Rowe

Understanding 'Security' in the 21st Century.

In India, unfortunately, our reference to security is just a guard in uniform who supposedly protects an installation. This installation could be a home, an apartment, an office building, bank etc. Or we refer security to gadgets like metal detectors, magneto-meters, CCTV etc. Security, however is none of these. Those mentioned above are mere tools that compliment the process of securing anything. In this write-up I've divided security into different stages so we get a better understanding of it.

Before we get into the stages, we must understand the process. Security consists of 2 important perspectives - Prediction & Preparation. Before we can look at Security from these perspectives, it is important to define it in simple terms -

Security is a mental process to predict thoughts & actions that can cause possible harm, to assets (both tangible and non tangible, including human/animal life) from known or unknown sources/adversaries and prepare oneself mentally and physically to plan and secure these assets. The preparation must first focus on mental preparedness and physical tactical training and not completely depend on use of technology or weapons. 

Security is like a game of chess - all it has is prediction and preparation. 

 Prediction

This is a very critical step to ensuring success in security. Without being able to predict what could be coming our way, there is no way to prepare. It is noticed that most efforts to secure assets fail as the people responsible are not open-minded and are ego/position/experience(mostly outdated) driven. We are all aware that the kind of criminals we encountered 5 yrs back aren't the same today. Today we have a hundred new ways to attack and destroy critical assets. The easiest way for our adversaries to test our preparedness is make a small attack or warn us about an attack in advance. I mean come on, how intelligent of a terrorist to warn us about a possible hijack of a plane and make his mission more tough.

2 things usually happen - The security is able to defend the attack successfully but also exposes their checks and weakness. Lets talk about our checks first with an example to Lone wolf attacks happening around Europe right now. I'd still call it a lone wolf when terrorists coordinate attacks at 5 different places as they attack alone or max in a pair. The first time it happened in Paris - explosions at stadium, shooting at cafe, hostage at a theater, etc. Post this attack, the security situation must have been planned not according to the attacks that have already taken place. The job of the security personnel was to PREDICT how they would attack in future. 2 terrorists then strike killing a priest in the church and one running over a crowd with a truck.

You could have the greatest weapons and the largest army, if you cannot predict the next move of your adversary, you will lose civilians and forces.

During my first class learning about IED (Improvised Explosive Devices) and Wolf attacks, my instructor gave us 5 mins to plan a terror attack in our respective countries. I wasted the first 3 mins or so, fighting my moral compass that wouldn't allow me to think of planning such an act. But once I realized the objective, I planted a bomb in a movie theater with ease. Completely aware of the level of checking that happens at the venue, aware of the awareness of the security personnel about possible weapons/components of IED's etc.

The fact is that in India, we are sitting ducks. Even though we are a billion + people, we depend on a few millions to protect us. Which is not wrong. but we depend on them COMPLETELY. And at every failure we love to take our bite of their flesh for failing. Go back to the line above where I speak of ego/experience/position coming in the way. Our biggest enemy is the state most of us are living in. The 'State of Denial'. Post the wolf attacks in Dhaka, I was speaking to a friend about being prepared of such ones in India. His answer was - Ah, that kinda stuff don't happen in India. I asked why ? I'm sure such things won't happen here, he replied. Though I pray that his words are held true, but I also knew as a security professional, he was sitting on a grenade. One event and the pin is pulled and then, it's a matter of time before it blows up.

While I trained in Israel on counter terror tactics, a couple of wolf attacks did take place there. One was the much spoken, at Sarona Market. As the attack took place we received videos from various security sources from various angles. What I saw in one, was unbelievable. I saw few men attack the adversary with a chair. In another incident that took place some months back, a terrorist rammed his car into people standing at a bus stop (Nice attack was not innovative. It was a copy of this one). He then got out of the vehicle with a butcher's knife and hacked a few who were in shock. However, that guy was taken down by a private security personnel immediately while those around ran towards him with whatever they could grab to hit.

I'm sure these instances would have given you a feel of wolf attacks. So, we know we are like sitting ducks. So where are we failing ?

1- We are failing to recognize our vulnerability to wolf attacks. We cannot expect the military, the police or the unarmed security guards to save you when you get attacked by a man/woman walking next to you.

2 - To hide our false prestige and accept that we are scared, we choose to be citizen of the State of Denial.

3 - We continue to be selfish. Not care about what is going wrong around us and try to stop it. Instead, we like to shoot (with our cameras). I'm sure we'll have someone shoot a video of being hacked by a wolf. But he won't live to share it.

4 - We have taken our defense forces for granted. You don't play cricket without the ball guard. Know why ? Coz 'WHAT IF' it misses the bat. So what if the wolf crawled by next to you ?

I can go on with many more points but these are enough to get you thinking in the direction that will make you think of your security. So getting back to Prediction. I suggest you keep you eyes, ears and mind open. There is only so many CCTV's that you can have. But imagine if each of us were aware of our individual security, making India the most secured nation with a BILLION CCTV's, it would be impossible for a wolf to attack. Each covering the others 6 (back).

We now transition to the next important part,

Preparation

Once you have your prediction antenna on, you will be able to catch the frequency of the attacker with ease. Preparation here includes 2 aspects. Preparation in thought and action.

Lets talk about preparation in thought first -

"The queen is moved from D1 to D2. Doesn't look like a big threat ! WRONG. Whether it is or it isn't, your thought of tagging that move as not a threat has exposed you to grave danger".

Read the above words in quote. Once with dramatic emotions and the 2nd time with flat emotions. There is a huge difference. For a security personal or one who is thinking like one, emotions can be your biggest enemy. Not because of how you will respond outwardly but because how your corresponding thoughts would shape.

So, your first step to prepare your thoughts is - Get a hold on your emotions. If you've read reports of people describing terrorists while they attacked, you will know that they are display no emotions. If you have to counter them you too must not panic. Emotional Intelligence is vital for not just your survival but of those you wish to protect.

Preparation in Action -

Unarmed combat is must. The reason why terrorists don't survive an attack in Israel is thanks to their policy of having an option for all citizens to serve in the army after their 12th std/2nd PUC. For a population of around 8 million this is easy to do, but for a billion people, we cannot. Hence, one must take personal interest and initiative to train themselves in counter terror tactics and unarmed combat (plz note - unarmed combat might not be equal to learning martial arts). Preparing your body for high voltage immediate action might save your life. Not to mention of the civilians you will save around you.

For this, you must say NO to JUNK food. Maintain clean and healthy lifestyle. Build yourself into a fit person. Lets say you had someone attack you and you didn't know unarmed combat, are you fit enough to run faster to get away from him ? Or if you had to chase an adversary across the street, can you catch him or you'll collapse after a few meters ? If you are hit and are in pain, can you still crawl and hide ?

All this might sound like a military training but well, for times like these, when the terrorists could be walking next to you, you need these skills if you must survive and save others around you.

I suggest, you make a group of friends and indulge in discussing options and tactics on what you will do when .........terror strikes. As a group indulge in physical activities. Push each other to go beyond pain (if you guys need a serious push, call me ! SERIOUSLY !). Discuss terror attacks. What could have been done by those around. Discuss how you would identify suspects. What clothes, behavior, language, etc. The only way to fight these wolfs is to get together as responsible citizens. Build each other. Trust each other.

I hope this write-up has instigated you to think different about security and what it must mean to you. I hope you take your Personal Security - Personally and Seriously !

Jai Hind !

Chakradhari Rowe

Nirbhaya - Beyond The TRP's

Disclaimer: Park your emotions before you start reading this. Some amount of EQ and IQ is needed to understand crime and its counters. 

Foreword:

If we have to find a solution to this menace of sexual abuse, we have to look at the crime from a perspective beyond that which is shown to us for gaining TRP's. This article will contradict in many ways what the media has shown you so far. It will be your achievement if you can read this write up and understand where we are going wrong.

THE CAUSE

With the TRP's that the Nirbhaya case received, the amount of candles burnt, the number of articles written, the number of talk shows conducted, the amount of air time used, we should have gotten somewhere in terms of reducing abuse against women. On the contrary, on the 4th anniversary of this case we had 2 rapes (1 gang rape, unreported not known) in the same city. We also have - 34,000 rapes ‘reported’ in 2015. Unreported could actually be more as we still belong to a society that discourages a victim to go public. Mumbai has seen a rise of over 200% in recent years in crime against women. Delhi still seems like the rape capital.

In this write up, I will be as blunt as anyone can be. I will share with you, what I believe can be a possible immediate solution to this menace.

We can debate what is really causing these statistics to rise at such alarming rate for a few more decades. Just like how we’ve been doing since the last few. Reasons ranging between lack of law enforcement, lack of justice enforcement, corruption, to reasons as ridiculous as girls going out late night and inappropriate dressing. There is no end to this discussion on the cause. This note however is to focus on the solution.

INTRODUCTION

Like cyclones and tornado, crime too comes with early indications. Investigators call them PCI (Pre Crime indicators). Few rapes a year escalating into a hundred rapes everyday didn’t happen overnight. There were, available PEI (Pre Escalation Indicators). However we chose to ignore those PEI’s & PCI's. We won’t be completely wrong if we say - the delay and quality of punishment given to the culprits, IF they were ever caught, was the biggest PEI.

In this article,  I'll denote every PCI with a * and every PEI with a #.

Assuming you take 10 to 15 mins to read this piece of text, there would have been a rape in some part of India in this time. And high possibility that it would have either got silenced or its been turned into a mysterious murder. This must stop right now. I know we all feel that way. But none are willing to do what it takes. We are so used to doing what is easy. And that is - BLAME. We blame the law enforcement, blame the victims, blame the bystanders, blame the criminals, blame the type of food one eats, blame the clothes one wears and everything that has nothing or very little to do with the crime.

This piece is about the truth. Truth from the perspective of someone trained by the best counter crime/terrorism professionals in the world. I can say with utmost accuracy that if what I write don’t make sense to you then nothing else will. You will go back to being a pussy and find a reason to blame things outside of you and lose your control on elements you had control on. In this write-up I will share an insight into how every woman has the opportunity to deter any malicious intent or action that is directed towards her or anyone around her. I will share this by taking an example of a case that caused a nation wide agitation and sensation. The media reported it 24/7 until there was any juice left. This write-up is a postmortem of this case and the mistakes the victim or her accomplice made that resulted in such.

THE CRIME

What if I told you the DGR (Delhi Gang Rape) was a planned affair and not an accident. The victim and her friend meeting at the mall - was planned. Which movie they would watch - was planned. Taking a 3 wheeler to Munirka - was planned. Choosing to get into THAT bus - was planned. The malicious intent of the boys on the bus - was planned. And everything that happened next - was planned. Nope, I’m not speaking of some master plan that god wrote but I speak of a perspective that I need you all to see that will help you understand the purpose of this write-up better.

When I say it was all planned, I’d like to define what a plan is. According to the dictionary the word ‘Plan’ is described in 2 forms:

As a Noun: an intention or decision about what one is going to do.
As per this definition its very clear that what I said above was accurate. It was all a plan.

As a Verb: decide on and make arrangements for in advance.
As per this definition, the word ‘ADVANCE’ doesn’t mention a timeline. So it could be an year before or also could be what it means as a noun. A Decision just before you act.

Looking at the above meaning we know that both the attacker and the victim were part of the plan from their own perspective. They both made plans and somewhere their paths crossed. At this crossing, both had a choice to choose their roles. It is important to acknowledge this to understand the rest of what I'd like to share.

The Crime - Choosing Our Role

All was fine till it was getting late for the girl to get home. 'Repeated calls from home* increased the stakes as she probably didn't share about her whereabouts* with her family nor did she share her challenges* of not being able to find a safe transport. It is usual in our culture that parents get worried. And it is out of love and care. But more often than not - parents tend to force their fear and anxiety onto their kids# while forgetting the fact that they have done nothing to train them to handle such anxiety (a tactical life skill). Neither have they built a foundation for open communication# where the kid feels safe to speak the truth.

Today, if you ask the girls parents if they would have been ok if she reached a little late that night after finding safe transport, they'd probably say yes. Coz now the delay in her getting home is compared to the current reality and the delay sounds and feels much better. So, both the girl and her friend were finding it tough to get her home AS SOON AS POSSIBLE*. While all their efforts to get an auto riksha failed, there approached THAT bus.

In the bus were ONLY 4 guys*. Any sane mind with a girl wouldn't have taken that bus*. Ask Akshay Kumar and he'd tell you he too wouldn't have taken that bus if it was in real life. In an interview ,the girls friend said that he showed resistance but the guys in the bus assured safety*. Now, which criminal would not do that ? When you are alone and powerless + with a girl, how could you even buy such an assurance ? You know you are not someone who is trained to fight or even have the courage to die fighting*. But he bought it. I'm assuming that the girl didn't speak at that point as she was already affected enough with the PEI's (repeated calls from home). I'm dead sure that the victim did feel that it was a mistake to get onto THE bus. Research proves that women are naturally talented and gifted to have a strong intuition. Something you need to successfully identify PCI's. However most women due to low self confidence ignore their intuition and fall prey to such crime.

PCI's are part of the crime. They always exist. In all crime. They exist in natural disasters too. Man has today designed equipment to identify the PII(Pre Incident Indicators) that come before any disaster. 

I'm sure the bus driver saw these two alone in the bus stop* from a distance. I'm also certain that the 4 did discuss before* the bus decided to stop for these 2. I'm equally certain that they had PLANNED some mischief. There is a possibility that the 4 were, in fact out there with that bus that evening with some crime on their mind. They were probably looking for a lone girl but they got a guy along. And by his initial negotiation* they must have flagged him white (not a threat).

It was this moment when the victim and her friend were standing at the door of this bus, there was a choice at their disposal to become victims or to refuse the ride and live safe. We all know what they chose. But do we know what they felt before they made that choice ? Do we know what the victim's intuition warned her ? I refuse to believe their intuition was absent. I also refuse to believe that they felt safe boarding that bus.

The Crime - Postmortem 

It is very interesting how the media from the beginning, didn't not raise some important questions.

•  Why did the girl not share with her parents her inability to get a safe transport ? Why couldn't she be frank with her parents and tell them that she is safe at that moment and will get home as soon as she finds a safe transport.
•  If you had the money to watch a movie in Select City Mall then why couldn't you afford (jointly) a 200 - 300 bucks auto fare to her home while giving more importance to her safety ?
•  Why did the guy agree to get into that empty bus with 4 guys ?
•  When he refused the first time to board the bus, what convinced him to go against his intuition and decision ?
• What did the attackers say that convinced him that it was safe to travel with them ?
•  Why did he not try to kill at least one ? Or what injuries did he inflict onto the attackers ? (Anger can cause a massive power rush even in a half dead man) If he lived to tell the tale he probably wasn't injured enough or lacked personal will to fight back in spite of pain.

These questions are quite aggressive towards the victim and her friend and completely contrary to questions that could generate TRP. If the above questions were asked back then by the media, we wouldn't have had another rape today in the same city where - a girl was offered a lift by a cab guy and she readily agreed and got raped. I'm sure she too was reluctant and the cab driver sold (just like the 4 guys did) his trust.

What does it take for a woman to trust a stranger ? How long ? What proof does she look for to be able to trust him ? Would it be ridiculous to call 100 and tell the cops that she is alone at a particular location and she is scared and not finding transport ? Our Police is not so insensitive to ignore such calls. 

The Solution Perspective

I need you, the reader to understand this from a non emotional perspective. We will never find the root cause and a solution if we get emotional about the challenges. While we demand death sentence to these culprits, rapes will not really come down. What we need to do is find that factor which can change the rate at which these crimes take place.

Police and Courts are #PostCrime factors. When we blame them for being slow and nonsensitive we are tell the criminals that - We are still not doing anything that can STOP them from raping our women. When we focus on powering our women with #CounterCrimeTactics we are telling the criminals that - Now you CAN NOT mess with our women. This is a #PreCrime factor. This gives complete control into our hands and hence we control the result.

The Solution 

Take complete ownership of what happens to you. When you have accepted that you are weak and do not know how to protect yourself, take responsibility to find people on Social media or in your community who can help you train and become capable enough to protect yourself. When I say protect I don't just mean learning martial arts and stuff. I mean the mental and tactical know how of how you can avoid a crime and not get into it and then fight your way out.

Deterrence is the greatest tactic against all crime and terrorism, that is least understood and used. 

How to identify a malicious intent early on. How to read PCI and understand PEI. Become more smarter than the criminal. You learn to use your brains to beat his dick. That day, no criminal will ever mess with another girl. That day the police will not have any case to solve. That day we will not have to take out a candle march for a girl and ask the courts for a death sentence.

The Solution is in the hands of every woman who is reading this. Remember an Armored Spirit can never be Raped or Abused ! 

I hope this article gets you to think in the right direction. A direction that helps you realize that the power to stop crime against women lies in the Mind & Spirit of herself and no other place outside. The only solution to this menace is #PersonalSecurityTraining and not #Blaming.

I urge you to get every woman you know to read this and learn from the errors of a fallen spirit. I write this with all grief in remembrance of #Nirbhaya. Lets unite and walk in the direction of Personal Security for all.

Jai Hind

Chakradhari Rowe